1- Time alone won’t heal you —but intention will.

Everyone says, “Just give it time.” But time
without inner work
just becomes a waiting game.
What actually helped was being
intentional about healing — hypnosis,
journaling, mirror work, and making space
to feel.

2- You’ll grieve more than just the person.

You’re grieving the future you imagined,
the family dynamic, the holidays, the group
texts (okay, maybe not the group texts).

I remember crying over a Costco-sized bag
of frozen chicken because we always
grilled together on Sundays.
It’s weird what hits you.

The grief comes in layers — like a lasagna
of emotional chaos — and that’s okay.

3- ‘Moving on’ doesn’t mean pretending it
never happened.

Healing isn’t erasing the past — it’s
integrating it.

You can honor the love that was and still
release what no longer serves you.

4- Your nervous system needs help, too.

Divorce can leave your body in a constant
state of fight-or-flight.
Hypnosis and nervous system regulation
aren’t just woo — they’re essential for
getting back to a place where you can
breathe again
(without feeling like you might sob on the
cashier at Trader Joe’s).

5- You’re not crazy — you’re cracked open.
One day I was confidently tossing his toothbrush in the trash like a boss.

Next, I was in pajamas at 3 p.m. googling,
“Can your heart literally break?”
while holding a pint of ice cream like it was a flotation device.That’s not weakness.
That’s the human heart processing a soul-sized loss. Give yourself grace
(and maybe a bath and a good cry playlist).

6- Healing alone is hard — but you don’t have to.

The strongest thing I ever did was ask for
help.
Whether it was a coach, a hypnotherapist,
or a community that understood what
“Exxiety” really feels like — connection
changed everything.