My Story
Our family had grown to include 3 wonderful children. We had been part of each other’s lives longer than not.
I asked him…are you having an affair? He said yes and that he was leaving me. That he didn’t want the life we built together anymore. The next day he moved out of our home and in with his coworker who had somewhere along the way become his mistress.
I remember asking him if he was sure, wanting to keep this hidden if there was even the slightest chance of saving our family.
We knew other couples who had separated, worked through their “shit”, and then got back together, becoming stronger than ever. I wanted that so badly for us!
With COVID ongoing and their father working as a paramedic, I was able to keep our separation hidden from our children, family, and friends. The pandemic provided a simple explanation for his absence, as many paramedics and other medical professionals were staying away from their families to protect them from potential exposure to the virus.
For 3 months I hoped to bring my family back together. The situation was something I never imagined for myself. I felt guilty for not being able to keep my family whole. I was in denial and the uncertainty of it all was the hardest part for me especially since I couldn't accept that my marriage was over.
As I suffered in silence with only a few close family members and friends knowing what was going on I started having panic attacks. The anxiety was almost crippling at times. All this going on along with having to manage my home and all the changes happening while living through a worldwide pandemic. All this change rocked my daily life. It didn’t even look familiar to me anymore.
What hurt most was how easily “he” seemed to move on, as though the promises we’d made and the future we’d planned together meant nothing. I struggled with self-doubt, wondering who would ever want me—a “broken” single mom with three children under ten. I worried about the life my kids would have and if anyone could love them as they deserved, embracing us as a package.
Everything was changing—not just for me, but for my kids as well. I knew that before breaking the news to them, I had to find my own healing; I needed to be able to offer them stability and security, even if things were challenging. But I didn’t have years for therapy, and I knew I couldn’t just keep replaying the trauma in my mind and hope for things to just magically get better. I thought of the advice given on airplanes: to put on your own oxygen mask first. I knew that by finding strength within myself, I could better guide my children toward a place of safety and stability too.
I began to see the tools life had already placed in my hands. For years, I’d been teaching birth classes using hypnosis to help moms and their partners find calm and confidence during childbirth. I was also a certified yoga instructor. I started using those same techniques on myself, adapting and personalizing them to help me move forward.
As I practiced, I discovered an inner strength I hadn’t known before. My confidence grew, and I began to let go of what I’d been holding on to. Through the help of hypnosis and other techniques I share in this program, I accelerated my progress and shifted my mindset. I experienced the power of forgiveness and the peace it brought—not just forgiveness toward him, but forgiveness for myself. I let go of the guilt I’d been carrying for not being able to keep our family together. I was finally freeing myself.
For the first time in a long time, I was opening my eyes to life’s possibilities. I started to see that what I put out was coming back to me. I felt happier, and that happiness spread to my kids. We weren’t just surviving; we were thriving. Even as I faced furlough due to COVID-19, new job opportunities began appearing, and I felt myself moving forward.
With each step, I saw more clearly all I had to be grateful for. I realized that what felt horrible at the start was becoming a blessing in disguise. Our family dynamic was changing—and, dare I say it, improving. I was uncovering what I now call my divine purpose.
As people learned of my journey, many expressed admiration for how I was handling it all. Some even reached out with their own stories, asking for guidance. One close friend said, “Why don’t you try helping others on a bigger scale?” I hesitated at first, but soon I felt a spark of purpose. I wanted something meaningful to come from this experience, something bigger than just helping myself and my family. If I had to go through this, I wanted it to serve a greater good.
I began building a program to support others facing trauma, betrayal, and loss—For people like me who needed a way forward. Now, when I look back, I don’t feel sorrow; I feel gratitude for the opportunity to give a part of myself. My journey has given me hard-earned wisdom and a deep, judgment-free understanding of what you’re going through. You’re not alone, and I promise you can come through this—stronger, happier, and healthier than ever. I’ve lived it, I’ve achieved it, and I’m here to help you do the same. Let me show you the way!
Now that you’ve heard my story, I love to hear yours
The HypnoDivorce Course was created with care and compassion to support you on your healing journey. While this course is a powerful resource for personal growth and transformation, it’s not a replacement for professional therapy, legal guidance, or medical care. Everyone’s journey is unique, and your results will depend on your personal path and efforts. If you’re experiencing significant emotional distress, we encourage you to reach out to a licensed therapist or counselor who can provide additional support.